Family History

Some world experts share their secrets of keeping a family close and sharing -- from driving bumper cars to spinning a basketball on your finger to building a boat -- to have you wow your grandkids.

It helps to remember that, as grandparents, we are often in a great position. We can lavish love and attention on these wondrous creatures without getting bogged down in the duties of parenthood. Yes, we worry about our grandchildren. They also can exhaust us. Most of the time, however, we can be caring companions, thrilled and honored to spend time with our grandchildren. And we can tighten the bonds of our families by sharing, with our own children, the joy we take in their children.

As part of the older generation, we are the role models. We are the bearers of our family's history and values. We can light the way for our children and grandchildren and great grandchildren by offering loving and supportive parenting.

Spoil your grandchildren. It's a grandparent's right and responsibility as well as a grandchild's expectation. Always say hello and goodbye with a hug and a kiss.

Start a collection of interest to a grandchild, such as bells, music boxes, miniature figurines. Then add to it when you travel, holiday time, or when you're shopping together.

Surprise a grandchild with a "just because" gift for no special occasion to arrive by mail even if they live nearby. A coupon for a burger or an ice cream cone from a franchise eatery is easy and appreciated.

Enjoy everyday living when you are together: wash dishes, fold laundry, rake leaves, or bake cookies. Parents usually see these as chores to be done quickly rather than a learning and sharing experience. You'll be surprised how much a grandchild will enjoy helping with these chores.

Create a book featuring your grandchild as part of the story. It can be handwritten or computer generated. If you can't draw cut pictures from a magazine.

Occasionally send a letter or card that involves an activity. Create a connect the dots using numbers or letters. Make up a crossword puzzle using words that are part of your grandchild's life. Watch a sunset with your grandchild and listen to their thoughts.

Be sure to offer all grandchildren your verbal "grandparents' seal of approval." Letting them know you think they are terrific at all ages. It is wonderful for their self esteem and offers a great feeling of security in an uncertain world.

Introduce a grandchild to gardening. Plant something together indoors or outside. A single sunflower seed grows quickly, or a sweet potato in water. Keep track of how it grows on each visit.